Hello to all my serial monogamist, serial daters, and single people who just want to live free of commitment. I’m a serial monogamist. Some people may not know what that is, so let me define it for ya. A serial monogamist according to lovepanky.com is a person who loves being in love, and always finds himself or herself in a relationship all the time. My definition, is a person who is rarely single, and in between relationships doesn’t give their self time to heal. I’m not exactly sure how long I’ve been one, but it definitely crept in during my undergrad years. I have so many stories, and lessons from all my relationships. I’m a strong believer in 20 somethings that don’t settle down with one person; because in our 20 somethings, we are still figuring out life and what we truly like. Yet, I constantly find myself falling for someone I’m dating and getting into long-term relationships that I later want out of. I never learn my lesson, even though I know full well what the consequences will be.
The first guy I dated in college was a virgin to everything; relationships, sex, life as an 18 year old, he just had no experience. We met, and something between us just clicked. He reached out to me and asked me on a date. I was excited; here I am in my first year of college already going on a date. The day of my excitement came to a full halt when I found out his Mama was taking us like we were in middle school, *sigh*. I still went on the date and it was okay, I really liked him though. We continued to talk, and like a week later he told me he thought he may be falling in love with me. What kind of shit is that? I explained that it was too soon, but I really liked him, and no less than 2 weeks went by and we were in a relationship. All of this because I wanted to be nice. That was the beginning of our on and off again relationship, and a series of hurt for him. That relationship is most likely the beginning of my series of relationships, and I’ll talk about those later. Throughout my journey I have discovered new things about my sexuality, my body, my mind and spirit. I only want to share it all as I embark on this new journey of deepening my love for self. That’s all I have for today, I’ll return next week.
P.S. I will be using a picture of an influential woman on every post. This week I chose Audre Lorde. She’s badass. Google her.